October 21, 2014
thecsph:

And don’t let anybody forget it. 

thecsph:

And don’t let anybody forget it. 

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October 20, 2014
"Still, transsexuals know that silence can be an extremely high price to pay for acceptance. I want to speak directly to the brothers and sisters who read/”read” this and say: I ask all of us to use the strength which brought us through the effort of restructuring identity, and which has also helped us to live in silence and denial, for a revisioning of our lives. I know you feel that most of the work is behind you and that the price of invisibility is not great. But, although individual change is the foundation of all things, it is not the end of all things. Perhaps it’s time to begin laying the groundwork for the next transformation."

From “The ‘Empire’ Strikes Back: A Posttranssexual Manifesto,” an essay by artist, academic, and activist Sandy Stone, one of the founders of transgender studies as an academic discipline.

the title is a reference to “The Transsexual Empire,” a viciously transphobic book by radical feminist Janice Raymond. the full text of Stone’s essay can be found here.

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October 19, 2014

Anonymous said: I am in my second trimester, and I've found sex to be very uncomfortable these days. When I get on top, it helps, but I get this terrible sensation after awhile. It almost feels like a uti, kinda burns and feels like I need to pee? It's hard to describe, but it lasts for several minutes after sex and durning (plus the cramping, which I've read is normal)I don't have a uti, I just have no idea what's going on down there, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Not being intimate is killin me!

themidwifeisin:

That does sounds like a vaginal infection to me.  The burning is pretty consistent with either a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis.  Pregnancy hormones fuss with everything, and they also make the vaginal discharge more basic, allowing it to be more susceptible to infections.  This is one reason why pregnant people end up with more vaginal infections.

Head on over to your provider and get them to do a quick check of your discharge under the microscope.  If there’s something going on they’ll help you out with it.

The other thing you’re talking about is positional discomfort, and that’s pretty common during pregnancy as well.  Your cervix gets flooded with blood, which is great for your pregnancy but not so great for your comfort.  When something hits your cervix, like a penis or fingers or a toy, it is just more uncomfortable than normal.  Nothing really to do about that except to avoid it.

The images below are taken from goodtoknow.co.uk.  They are unfortunately all white, skinny, non-pregnant people, and the language on the website is incredibly gendered, as an FYI.  Sorry about that.  If anyone wants to a) make photos or illustration of themselves and their partners doing these positions (probably clothed is best), I would be thrilled.  Over the moon.  And I would get rid of all these silly illustrations below.

Some good pregnancy positions for penis/strap-on-in-vagina sex:

  • Sitting on top: Great for not putting pressure on the belly and getting a better angle for cervixes.
  • Spooning: Again, takes pressure off the belly and gives a shallow thrust to the penis/strap-on, keeping it away from the cervix.  Also good for when you’re pooped and you just want to lay there while someone else does all the work.  You can also pop a pillow under the side of your belly for a little extra support.
  • Half-off-the-bed/table: This is sort of a special-for-pregnancy missionary.  It gives you the forward facing intimacy while bringing the top partner’s weight away from your belly.

  • Side Saddle: This gives you a little more control for those days when you feel like you can’t help but hit your cervix.  With the penis/strap-on essentially pointing sideways you’ll hit the sidewalls of the vagina but avoid the tender bits.
  • Standing: Surprise sex in the garage while you’re working on your bicycle?  Semi-public sex in the backyard as you get down the ladder from cleaning out the gutters?  Go for it!  This position is best with one leg raised for a little extra access, and it keeps the penis/strap-on thrusting shallowly and not only avoiding the cervix but also going straight for the g-spot.
  • Backwards-facing: You get to control the pace plus it gives you plenty of room to use your vibrator!
  • Butt-Up: The pictures don’t show it very well but these are great low-energy positions for avoiding the cervix.  If you pop a pillow or two under your butt you’ll be way more comfortable.

  • From behind: This one can be good because it takes the pressure off your belly, but for some people the depth with which the penis/strap-on can now plunge is just a little too much.  Give it a shot and see how you fit.
  • Sitting up: These are also great, but be careful while using them - some of these illustrations look a little precarious.  Your legs might also get tired, but see if your partner will help out with the thrusting.

Now, how to apply that to fingers/hands/toys?

Try making shallow thrusts and pointing the object forward, toward the belly button.  That way you put pressure on the g-spot and good stimulation to the Skene’s glands for ejaculation, and you avoid the cervix.  Before inserting a toy, consider using your fingers to assess the depth and location of the cervix.  Is it pointing right at you? Is it pointing to one side?  Is it pointing up or down?  That way you’ll know where to point the toy.

And remember - although it’s true that you don’t have to worry about getting pregnant once you’re already pregnant, you still can get STIs, so use barriers unless you both know your STI status.

I hope this helps!   Have safe, comfortable sex!

October 19, 2014

cecileemeke:

Johny Pitts on Strolling by Cecile Emeke: Whiteness, Malsculinity, Colourism & More (Full discourse HERE)

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October 19, 2014

talesofthestarshipregeneration:

silent3:

throwingshadepodcast:

What year is this

x / x

There’s a reason I hated that sappy, watery, pathetic book. Now I know what it is.

well thank god  black kids  are spared this racist ignorant bad writer’s presence and bankrupt philosophy.

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October 19, 2014
loveisrespect:

ocadvsa:

Traits of a healthy relationship

Great graphic about healthy relationships!

loveisrespect:

ocadvsa:

Traits of a healthy relationship

Great graphic about healthy relationships!

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October 18, 2014

thepoliticalfreakshow:

kennyvee:

kjuw89:

justplainsomething:

hermionegranger:

Real Time with Bill Maher: 6.6.14 — Anthony Weiner, Jim Geraghety, Nicolle Wallace

#FINALLYSOMEONESAYSIT

Holy shit, Anthony Weiner actually said something important.

It’s a miracle!

That’s been the Republican strategy since day one of Obama’s presidency. Block the President at every turn, then blame him for not getting anything done. In fact, here’s Newt Gingrich openly admitting to it.

That’s why Republicans block jobs bills — so they can blame Obama for the economy still sucking. They’ve blocked budgets, resulting in a government shutdown that they then tried to blame on Obama. They’ve tried over and over again to block Obamacare, and complain that it’s a failure as they work their asses off to try to make it fail.

It’s kindergarten politics, and we need to vote these schmucks out in November. A bunch of white guys throwing temper tantrums and shouting NO! to everything just because they don’t like the president is no way to run a government, especially if we’re going to continue to pretend to be one of the greatest nations on earth.

And we’ll be hearing more from the woman on the right side in the picture, because she (Nicolle Wallace) is now one of The View's new co-hosts, along with comedienne Rosie Perez, comedienne Rosie O'Donnell, and comedienne Whoopi Goldberg.

October 17, 2014
Local Wisconsin school district adopts trans-friendly bathroom and locker room policy

gaywrites:

The Janesville School District in Wisconsin has approved a policy allowing trans students to use the bathroom and locker room matching their gender identity, if it’s okay with their parents and principal. 

Craig High School teacher Katy Hess advises the Gay-Straight Alliance and said its members were very pleased by the board’s action. Hess said she regularly hears students in the club discuss bullying and harassment that they have experienced. She estimates the school has about a half-dozen transgender students.

The policy said the school will provide reasonable accommodations for transgender students after receiving written requests from their parents or guardians. School principals must approve the requests.

The “parents and principals” caveat could mean that some students still face hurdles, but overall, this is a big step in the right direction. As always, don’t read the comments on the article linked above. Let’s just revel in the fact that this is the right thing to do. 

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October 16, 2014
rileykonor:

A Discussion on “Mandatory Pronouns” vs. “Preferred Pronouns”
Today, I would like to discuss a trend within some of the transgender and gender non-conforming communities that I have noticed lately - and that is the growing dislike of the phrase “preferred pronouns” and the shaming of folks who say things like, “I prefer x/y/z pronouns.”
To some, this phrase “preferred pronouns” somehow gives the impression that folks can decide what pronouns they want to refer to you with or choose how to gender you at any given time, or not be held accountable when they mess up your pronouns. While I understand that the phrase may give that impression and folks can take advantage of that, the term is quite valuable to some in the gender non-conforming communities - especially those with multiple pronouns and/or identities and gender sensitive situations. To me, it is a valid phrase that should be respected among communities who want to use it to describe their personal pronoun use.
As a non-binary person, I have pronouns that I would prefer to be used for me depending on social situations. I have this preference for my own safety and well-being, and I discuss it at length with folks that I feel comfortable with - like friends, family, and some acquaintances. 

For example, I used to identify with he/him/his AND they/them/their pronouns interchangeably. My friends and family were aware of this. They would refer to me as he/him in situations when we were in good company, but in workplace environments or other public situations where I was not completely out as genderqueer, they would try to use gender neutral pronouns - which is what I preferred to avoid awkward or even harmful social situations.
Sidenote: I now only use they/them/their pronouns for myself, but the sentiment is still there. I know a lot of other folks have had similar experiences with this and would like the same respect.

Some people ONLY use binary pronouns: he/him/his or she/her/hers. Some simply use they/them/their or other gender neutral pronouns like ze/zim/zer. Others use a variety of pronouns depending on their situation, gender identity, and gender expression, and this can vary from day to day for some folks.

Bottom line: Pronouns ARE mandatory, but they are not universally used the same ways in the same situations for all people. Pronouns are valid and should be respected and acknowledged according to each person. Trans and gender non-conforming communities are full of diversity, so why can’t we accept that pronouns are mandatory AND/or may be preferred for some?

Personally, I identify with both phrases collectively. My pronouns are mandatory to me. My pronouns pertain to me and are not to be modified or disregarded by anyone but me. But I do have preferences regarding my pronouns in various situations, as I have said. Quite frankly, there are so many factors that would determine what situation(s) would be appropriate to use what pronouns - and not just for me, but for everyone. This is why it is so important to not only inquire about people’s pronouns and their preferences, but also check-in regarding their pronoun status. Communicate when you can. Do research. Ask questions if need be. But respect people’s pronouns.
This is a really basic attempt at discussing this topic and the issues surrounding it. Basically, I wrote this to raise awareness of this issue and just keep the discussion going.
Please feel free to do so.

rileykonor:

A Discussion on “Mandatory Pronouns” vs. “Preferred Pronouns”

Today, I would like to discuss a trend within some of the transgender and gender non-conforming communities that I have noticed lately - and that is the growing dislike of the phrase “preferred pronouns” and the shaming of folks who say things like, “I prefer x/y/z pronouns.”

To some, this phrase “preferred pronouns” somehow gives the impression that folks can decide what pronouns they want to refer to you with or choose how to gender you at any given time, or not be held accountable when they mess up your pronouns. While I understand that the phrase may give that impression and folks can take advantage of that, the term is quite valuable to some in the gender non-conforming communities - especially those with multiple pronouns and/or identities and gender sensitive situations. To me, it is a valid phrase that should be respected among communities who want to use it to describe their personal pronoun use.

As a non-binary person, I have pronouns that I would prefer to be used for me depending on social situations. I have this preference for my own safety and well-being, and I discuss it at length with folks that I feel comfortable with - like friends, family, and some acquaintances. 

For example, I used to identify with he/him/his AND they/them/their pronouns interchangeably. My friends and family were aware of this. They would refer to me as he/him in situations when we were in good company, but in workplace environments or other public situations where I was not completely out as genderqueer, they would try to use gender neutral pronouns - which is what I preferred to avoid awkward or even harmful social situations.

Sidenote: I now only use they/them/their pronouns for myself, but the sentiment is still there. I know a lot of other folks have had similar experiences with this and would like the same respect.

Some people ONLY use binary pronouns: he/him/his or she/her/hers. Some simply use they/them/their or other gender neutral pronouns like ze/zim/zer. Others use a variety of pronouns depending on their situation, gender identity, and gender expression, and this can vary from day to day for some folks.

Bottom line: Pronouns ARE mandatory, but they are not universally used the same ways in the same situations for all people. Pronouns are valid and should be respected and acknowledged according to each person. Trans and gender non-conforming communities are full of diversity, so why can’t we accept that pronouns are mandatory AND/or may be preferred for some?

Personally, I identify with both phrases collectively. My pronouns are mandatory to me. My pronouns pertain to me and are not to be modified or disregarded by anyone but me. But I do have preferences regarding my pronouns in various situations, as I have said. Quite frankly, there are so many factors that would determine what situation(s) would be appropriate to use what pronouns - and not just for me, but for everyone. This is why it is so important to not only inquire about people’s pronouns and their preferences, but also check-in regarding their pronoun status. Communicate when you can. Do research. Ask questions if need be. But respect people’s pronouns.

This is a really basic attempt at discussing this topic and the issues surrounding it. Basically, I wrote this to raise awareness of this issue and just keep the discussion going.

Please feel free to do so.

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October 16, 2014

sica49:

"Rahm Emanuel is not caring about our schools; he is not caring about our safety. He only cares about his kids. He only care about what he needs. He do not care about nobody else but himself.

He let Barbara Byrd-Bennett, a woman that’s from Detroit who don’t even know the streets of Chicago where I’m from, come in and close these schools.” [x]

Look at the passion y’all!!!

Teach the babies that their words matter yess

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October 15, 2014

thebasehrbi:

Equipment bags can be found in various small businesses throughout the East Harlem community, as well as at Harlem RBI.

A note on common condom names: Though condoms are usually called “male” and “female” condoms, it’s important to remember that people with penises do not always identify themselves as male, and people with vaginas do not always identify as female. “Female” condoms can also be worn by anyone, since they can be worn in vaginas and rectums.

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October 14, 2014

fuckyeahlavernecox:

Just received my copy of I Am Jazz! Found a quote by Laverne in it… :) 

I Am Jazz is the story of a transgender child based on the real-life experience of Jazz Jennings, who has become a spokesperson for trans kids everywhere.

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October 13, 2014

dulceetdecorus:

Everyone keeps saying to be ‘more like Seattle’ due to their switch to Indigenous People’s Day, but can we also remember that Seattle is one of the cities in the US that is actually more segregated now than it was closer to segregation~

So naw.

‪#‎themoreyouknow‬

x

October 13, 2014

Rina Takeda [x]

Fight like a girl

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Filed under: like a girl 
October 13, 2014
riptidepublishing:

sallymolay:

Brooke Guinan is the FDNY’s ONLY transgender firefighter. Not only does she save lives everyday as part of her job, she is an inspiration to us all standing up for embracing who you are without fear or shame, but with pride and strength. Brooke tirelessly fights to increase the percentage of women and people of color in the FDNY as well as fight for a continually equal work environment.
Brooke is role model in the So Trans So What campaign. Read more at So Gay So What.

We had the pleasure of meeting and chatting with Brooke at the GLBT Expo in NYC last year. She was such a lovely, charming, joyful person, so excited to find stories that represented her. We’re so glad to see her keeping that joy and fighting the good fight <3

It’s been a really breakthrough year for the FDNY~

riptidepublishing:

sallymolay:

Brooke Guinan is the FDNY’s ONLY transgender firefighter. Not only does she save lives everyday as part of her job, she is an inspiration to us all standing up for embracing who you are without fear or shame, but with pride and strength. Brooke tirelessly fights to increase the percentage of women and people of color in the FDNY as well as fight for a continually equal work environment.

Brooke is role model in the So Trans So What campaign.
Read more at So Gay So What.

We had the pleasure of meeting and chatting with Brooke at the GLBT Expo in NYC last year. She was such a lovely, charming, joyful person, so excited to find stories that represented her. We’re so glad to see her keeping that joy and fighting the good fight <3

It’s been a really breakthrough year for the FDNY~

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