September 19, 2014

fuckyeahbiguys:

Hey new followers! For those who have only starting following me in the past few weeks, here’s a link to a video I made last year about some of the myths and questions bi guys get asked all the time. 

September 18, 2014

queerascat:

Bisexuality: Setting the Record “Straight” by TheNotAdam

So I’m tired of getting narrow minded comments and questions online questioning my sexuality. I decided to make a video and attempt to put this issue to bed once and for all. Hopefully I can put things in plain enough terms that even the most simple people out there can understand…

also, check out this interview with R.J. Aguiar on Advocate.com.

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September 17, 2014

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September 16, 2014

thisisbobbylondon:

In response to anyone who thinks they have an fierce inner black woman in them and is not in fact, a black woman

See the thing about that fire and that “fierceness” is that it’s born out of our oppression, out of always being told that we are ugly, that our bodies are too fat or too muscular, that we don’t have the right kind of hair — and having to deconstruct all those things and tell ourselves that we are beautiful even though society is telling us that we are not.  

That strength is born out of always having to defend ourselves against white supremacy and anti-black-woman-patriachy. From years of not seeing ourselves represented in anything aligned with beauty, of buying products that are made to make us look like not ourselves.

So there is no way you could have an inner black woman in you. You have not experienced our struggle, you don’t know it, you haven’t lived it, and you can’t imagine it. 

See, you can’t sit with us, because we haven’t been able to sit at your table since our existence in this country. And while we were being excluded from your table we made our own, and it is fabulous and fly. And of course you now want to try and have a seat at our table, take our table, use it and ignore all the labor that went into creating THAT table.

But nah, sorry boo boo.

You ain’t never going to be us, you can try to wear your hair like us, you can try to dance like us, talk like us, wish you were us, but know this —

YOU-WILL-NEVER-BE-US

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September 16, 2014

knowhomo:

LGBTQ* Vlogs: Bisexual Erasure

Camille, poised, educated, approachable, funny, and insightful as ever, offers her own insight and discusses bisexual erasure of those who identify as bisexual.

Camille, the creator and moderator of Tumblr’s GayWrites as well as AskGayWrites, is a site you I (Rebecca) will stand up for as one of my favorites on Tumblr. It is well sourced, researched, and like many blogs, Camille puts endless hours of her own time into the large project that is GayWrites.org.

Check her out! And, If you feel inclined, subscribe to her YouTube Channel.

(via fuckyeahbiguys)

September 15, 2014

mercurialvixen:

A bisexual cannot actually be in a ‘straight’ relationship or a ‘homosexual’ relationship because - wait for it - they’re bisexual

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September 15, 2014

glinzilla:

hopeisvital242:

recoverystruggles:

DBT Handbook

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a form of therapy created by Marsha Linehan, PhD. It is a modified version Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) with a focus on Mindfulness, which is pulled from Eastern mindfulness techniques. DBT was originally created to treat chronically suicidal and self-injuring individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), but has since been proven effective for many other mental illnesses including, but not limited to: depression, anxiety, PTSD, eating disorders, substance abuse, bipolar disorder, and self-injurers.

more info on DBT here and here

I first learned DBT two years ago at Timberline Knolls when I did residential, and it helped so much that I did a DBT intensive outpatient program when I got home from there. After “graduating” from my IOP, I created my own version of our DBT handbook that I could keep forever, basically. It took a long time- 28 pages- but it was worth it!

I wanted to share it with you all because I think everyone should learn DBT, whether they have mental health disorders or not!

this is like THE MOST HELPFUL STUFF EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! everyone should look into this. it truly helps with life itself.

This is great!

(via thecenteredself)

September 15, 2014

effrille:

frufrou:

5pointpalmexplodingheartechnique:

Please stop supporting FCKH8

FckH8 is literally like the fucking obnoxious confused straight ally with fucked up priorities and a desperate need for attention

what the hell???

(Source: nentindo, via thepoliticalfreakshow)

September 14, 2014
shit non-latin men say to latinas

fucknofetishization:

Some of this has actually been said to me as a latina, or i have heard someone say this, no lie. The nerve of some people, i swear.. Add to this post if you can think of anymore. - e

"I want a latina girlfriend so she can make me tacos and burritos."

"I love spanish girls!"

"Talk dirty to me in spanish when we have sex"

"Are you actually latina? You’re so pale!"

"You have a nice latina ass"

"Hispanic girls are promiscuous aren’t they?"

"I want to have sex with you while you eat tacos"

"I’ve had mexican fever ever since i moved to texas!"

"I’ve never been with a latina before.."

"Latinas are like white girls, but with a black girl’s body and attitude."

"You have a flat ass for a latina."

"Hey mami"

"Call me papi"

 ”Latinas are pretty but only the light skinned/white ones.”

"You would be more authentic if you spoke spanish."

"Are you trying to be white by dying your hair blonde?"

"What kind of spanish are you?"

"Puerto ricans, spanish, mexicans, same thing!"

"Are you legal?"

"Really? Both your parents were born here?"

"If you’re Latina why are you black?"

"Have you been to mexico before?"

(via fucknofetishization)

September 14, 2014
artivismproject:

So, by popular demand, here is the gender poster in it’s printable form.

artivismproject:

So, by popular demand, here is the gender poster in it’s printable form.

(via lgbtqblogs)

September 14, 2014
fuckyeahbiguys:

micdotcom:

Forget the spreadsheet, here’s an easy flowchart to know if a women owes you sex

Microsoft Excel took a turn for the explicit this week when the Internet learned the once-innocuous office tool was being used in a dispiriting new bro-trend: using the software to track of the number of times their partners refuse sex. Yes, #sexspreadsheets are a thing, presumably because some men still believe that owning of a penis entitles them to unlimited sexy times.
Sorry, guys, that’s just not the way the world works | Follow micdotcom 


This chart works works really well for everyone, regardless of the gender of the person you’re dating/interested in/hooking up with

fuckyeahbiguys:

micdotcom:

Forget the spreadsheet, here’s an easy flowchart to know if a women owes you sex

Microsoft Excel took a turn for the explicit this week when the Internet learned the once-innocuous office tool was being used in a dispiriting new bro-trend: using the software to track of the number of times their partners refuse sex. Yes, #sexspreadsheets are a thing, presumably because some men still believe that owning of a penis entitles them to unlimited sexy times.

Sorry, guys, that’s just not the way the world works | Follow micdotcom 

This chart works works really well for everyone, regardless of the gender of the person you’re dating/interested in/hooking up with

September 13, 2014
cute-pubes:

As I was sitting in the back of the police car, I remembered the countless times my father came home frustrated or humiliated by the cops when he had done nothing wrong. I felt his shame, his anger, and my own feelings of frustration for existing in a world where I have allowed myself to believe that “authority figures” could control my BEING… my ability to BE!
Danièle’s husband, Brian Lucas, who is white, says he believes they were targeted because they are an interracial couple.
Read more here

"Annoying that this is only news because she wasn’t sex working…even if she had been she was breaking no laws at the time."

cute-pubes:

As I was sitting in the back of the police car, I remembered the countless times my father came home frustrated or humiliated by the cops when he had done nothing wrong. I felt his shame, his anger, and my own feelings of frustration for existing in a world where I have allowed myself to believe that “authority figures” could control my BEING… my ability to BE!

Danièle’s husband, Brian Lucas, who is white, says he believes they were targeted because they are an interracial couple.

Read more here

"Annoying that this is only news because she wasn’t sex working…even if she had been she was breaking no laws at the time."

(via sexgenderbody)

September 13, 2014
FCKH8 Continues To Be Awful, Demands An Apology & Accuses Colorlines Of Being Homophobic

chescaleigh:

FCKH8 posted a statement on their blog yesterday in response to the Colorlines article that questioned the motives of their “I’m over racism” t-shirt and viral video. If you’re not caught up, here’s a rundown of how this whole thing started.

The post is of course,…

September 13, 2014

crystalqueer:

Photos and final product for Mq. & Mrs.’s amazing lgbtq coloring book for kids.

Model : Alicia Michele

(via lezbhonest)

September 13, 2014
"Other people are not medicine."

(Source: slutsandsinners, via thecenteredself)