July 31, 2014

Anonymous said: How is oral herpes spread? All I've found is stuff about coldsores.

Oral Herpes, also frequently known as Cold Sores or HSV1 is transmitted through skin to skin contact. 

It is a common misconception that it is easily spread from sharing objects with a person who has HSV; however

The herpes virus does not survive outside the body for more than about 10 seconds, and although it can survive for slightly longer in warm, damp conditions, it dies very quickly once exposed to the air.

It is most likely to transmit HSV when there is a person has an active expression or is symptomatic, however

[Many people] produce viral particles even when they have no symptoms at all. These people are likely contagious even when they have no symptoms at all. This term is called “asymptomatic shedding” 

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Though HSV1/Cold Sores are mostly known to be found Orally, roughly 1/3rd of Genital Herpes infections are due to HSV1 and up to 5%  of which are recurring.

The important thing is to be as Safe, Open, Educated and Compassionate as possible.

-Communicate with your partners:
 Ask if they’ve ever had an expression of Cold Sores/HSV1, if their family members have had it, if they have had partners who have had an expression

-Understand that even if they don’t know they have, they probably have!
 Most of us have been with folks who have had HSV (even just kissing!), many of our family members have had it, we might have even had it when we were younger and not known it. It’s more likely you HAVE been exposed to it than haven’t

-Protect yourself with Condoms, Dental Damns and Compassion
 HSV is a skin-to-skin transmitted virus, so there’s a chance that even with the as much protection as you can manage, you may get it, or already have it and give it to your partner

-Take care of yourself
 Feeling under the weather? Immuno-compromised from stress, flu, training, illness etc? Find ways to boost your immune system with sleep, meditation, vitamins, sunshine, proper nutrition etc before engaging in activity that may expose you to any risks.

And remember, countless people have hsv and live pretty darn great lives.

-hsh

July 31, 2014

Anonymous said: I would be interested in you making videos about your experience living with herpes and how you have learned to cope. I know it is really helpful for people (including myself) to be able to put a face to the illness and feel lesss shame and stigma about having it. Youre so great! Do you have a link to your old videos/ youtube channel?

I don’t have any videos on the channel to link you to unfortunately! But your idea sounds great. I’ll make note that there’s some interest and if anyone has any specific questions and I’ll try and make a short tumblr video for y’all.

-hsh

July 31, 2014
"recovery is a funny fucking thing
because just when you think
that the storm has passed,
there’s that one little raindrop can
trigger a hurricane that
leaves a disaster zone in it’s wake."

— (via affairedecoeur)

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July 30, 2014

ginsburger:

abyssaintgotshit:

condomdepot:

buddhabrot:

femininefreak:

Sex Education in American Public Schools

every one makes fun of New Jersey but it fucking rules

Wow, these graphs really put the lack of proper sex education in school into perspective. 

Say what you want about NJ, but we know our shit when it comes to sex. 

NJ all day motha fucka

July 29, 2014

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July 28, 2014
carolrossettidesign:

Vanessa!

carolrossettidesign:

Vanessa!

July 28, 2014
darkly-stark:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
Use, redistribute, print. 
Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

Thank fuck, I love this post

darkly-stark:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print. 

Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.

And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

Thank fuck, I love this post

(via jessicreep)

July 27, 2014

carolrossettidesign:

Sorry, everybody! I had to delete these two cause I mispelled some words… But here they are again! :)

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July 27, 2014
carolrossettidesign:

[image text] Its was a very hot day when Eduarda wore shorts at school. The teacher told her never to dress like that again, because the boys got distracted during class. Eduarda, It’s not your job to make other people behave with decency and respect. You should dress how you feel comfortable!

carolrossettidesign:

[image text] Its was a very hot day when Eduarda wore shorts at school. The teacher told her never to dress like that again, because the boys got distracted during class. Eduarda, It’s not your job to make other people behave with decency and respect. You should dress how you feel comfortable!

July 27, 2014
piecesofamoonchyld:

Recently Kaige told us he wishes he could be both a boy and a girl because he likes playing princesses as much as ninjas and he doesn’t want to get made fun of. So we bought him a tutu and gave him a makeover. Meet the new and improved Kaige. If you have a problem with it please keep it to yourself and kindly stay out of his life. Which would be a shame because as you can see he’s freakin’ awesome! #letmebeme #mumblr #stopbullying

piecesofamoonchyld:

Recently Kaige told us he wishes he could be both a boy and a girl because he likes playing princesses as much as ninjas and he doesn’t want to get made fun of. So we bought him a tutu and gave him a makeover. Meet the new and improved Kaige. If you have a problem with it please keep it to yourself and kindly stay out of his life. Which would be a shame because as you can see he’s freakin’ awesome! #letmebeme #mumblr #stopbullying

July 27, 2014
condommonologues:

There is more than one way to fuck safely.  Which method is best for you?

condommonologues:

There is more than one way to fuck safely.  Which method is best for you?

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July 27, 2014

carolrossettidesign:

I’ll try to post more in english… It’s not my first language, so if you see any mistakes, just tell me and I’ll repost it :)

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July 27, 2014
"My first act of treason was picking up a pen
My first act of love was finding myself again"

Otep Shamaya

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July 26, 2014

Anonymous said: Do you post any videos or haver a personal blog?

Hey!

I have multiple blogs that are primarily single serve excursions and interests (DIY, Poetry, Gratitude, Street art, Mental Health), but I gave up having a dedicated personal blog quite a bit ago.

I would LOVE to make videos! Before I took my extended mental health break, I made a youtube channel and everything, but had to prioritize life for a bit. (I also didn’t have the slightest as to what to talk about)

If anyone has suggestions or has a real interest in seeing my muggle face making strange word-like noises, send some questions/suggestions and most importantly *interest* to my inbox and I might further explore this option.

Have a rad night!

July 25, 2014

Anonymous said: Has having herpes negatively affected your sex life?

In a short answer ‘No’ in a long answer ‘Not really?’

Each person’s relationship with themselves, with sex, with current and future partners will be unique. A better question is, does HSV have to negatively affect your sex life? Nope, not one bit, but negativity is relative.

Do I have to self care more and be aware of stress? Yes.
Do I have to have a conversation with my partners that may result in us not being sexually involved? Yes (but it hasn’t happened to date!)
Do I get hurt over people shaming HSV casually as if they or 10 of their friends don’t have some form of it? Yep, frequently.

But, more importantly-

Am I better able to advocate for myself sexually now? 
Am I better informed about my body, health and safety?
Am I learning the importance of intimacy and putting myself first?
Am I seeking out healthy, emotionally fulfilling romantic and non romantic relationships?
Am I living in the moment more and worrying about other people’s judgements less?
Am I more in tune with my body?
Yes, yes and fuck yes.

So, in short, Yes Hsv has changed me, but mostly it’s increased my own awareness and I can’t say that that’s negative.