I made a post about the topic a while ago, but I don’t feel like looking for it, so let’s talk about it!
Incase your unaware, racial preferences are exactly what they sound like. A person basing someone else’s eligibility for a romantic/sexual/platonic relationship based on someone’s race.
Chances are if you’re gay and a PoC you’ve run into this scenario multiple times, “White Guys Only,” “Not Into Chocolate, Rice or Spice”, etc.
Many times I’ll come across those who’ll denounce the idea of racial preferences as racist because “They can’t control who they’re attracted to” or even classier, “I can’t control what get’s my dick hard”.
Let’s get something straight right out of the bat. Attraction is not something created in a vacuum. What you wind up finding attractive in a person is not a trait created in complete isolation from the world around you.
We’re constantly bombarded as a society with what our culture as a whole deems attractive and worthy of romantic and sexual attention. And whether or not we actively realize it, we internalize a lot those messages and incorporate them into our perception of reality.
And naturally, if you’re a part of a racist society, you’re going to internalize the racist constructs that come with it.
Attraction and the Perception of Beauty are not exempt from this.
No, Societal cues do not dictate the entirety of what you find attractive, but it contributes to a lot of it. It’s also worth noting that many people who once claimed racial preferences abandoned them once they questioned why they had them in the first place.
And please let us not forget. Race as it exists as we know it, is a purely social construct. Meaning that it’s legitimacy and place in society is not based on any actual significant physical differences.
And not only that, but it was created as a way to perpetuate the concept of White Supremacy (at least in the West).
So moving on to the basic and pretty much obvious reason why racial preferences are racist. Usually these preferences overwhelmingly favor White People and more often then not, when racial preferences don’t favor White People, they “favor” PoC in disgusting stereotypical ways.
Now here’s the thing. Take the phrase “I don’t find Black People attractive”. Let’s break this statement down.
Here is this 1 person, deciding that the entire Black Population, don’t suit their personal tastes. Based soley on the fact that they are Black. Let’s look at the numbers.
*Note, we’re going to be looking at the numbers for Sub-Saharan African Peopled because that’s what people usually mean when they’re referring to Black People.
As of 2011, the population of Sub-Saharan Africa was clicked at 874,841,049 people. Now let’s add in the total from The US, where the population of Black People in the US is usually steady at 13-14%, meaning the Black Population of the US a little over 44.5 million people. Combine those numbers and you’re at 923,297,058 people.
923,297,058 individual people. And within that number (which doesn’t include the totality of the global diaspora because I didn’t take into account South America, Asia, or Europe into these numbers) you have different cultures, different ethnicities, different identies, different languages, different personalitie, and a shit ton, nigh a near unimaginable number of skin-tone variations, and this is just talking about the basic stuff.
So this 1 person, is willing to trust their gut that no one within that group of over 900 million individuals is attractive based on the one fact that they’re all Black. And please, let us remember that the concept of race is not a Universal one, so there will be plenty of people within that 900 Million that’ll have no clue what you’re talking about when you refer to them as Black.
And before you even ask, no this is not about forcing you to require to find PoC attractive.
You are not obligated to find every single Black guy attractive. No one is, but if you’re only reason for not finding that guy attractive because he’s Black, then you’ve got a couple of issues that you need sorting out.